Check if it's true

Everyone is entitled to a favorite mistake.
It just goes to say: everyone has his own special suppositions about the outside world. For many of these thoughts you may safely assume that they are somewhat true. "My mother loves me" for example is a very safe thought, it will always be true in one form or another. But your ideas about your social environment are not necessarily so true. For myself: I am married to a real black african woman. and in Holland I always suppose that nobody is bothered anyway with that. Comes a time, a couple of weeks ago that, after entering a lunchroom, we were very obviously neglected. After some 15 minutes we left the joint, slightly hungry but very indignified. You suppose racial discrimination is no more of your country just to discover that it is still there. The mistake in my thinking so was: with an african woman you can go everywhere in this country. If you find out it is not true, it hits you pretty hard.

Prove for yourself if it is true what you suppose
Now this is one of the major turning keys in the treatment of burnout. Take the liberty to check with your chief and your colleagues if they also find it as important and necessary that you put in two hours overtime every evening. You should realize that the answer might very well be reassuring. But, what you don't ask, will not be answered. If you are a married, working woman, is it still necessary that you serve dinner for your husband at exactly 18:00 or.... Well, I can go on much longer but I think you can see my point. We load our lives up with all kinds of habits that may trouble us sooner or later and which we then forget to check for their real necessity. Leave these patterns to grow and prosper, both at home and at your work and you make your life more difficult then necessasry, possibly funding a serious burnout. However, if you don't take all kinds of things for granted, you will see that inprovement of your life is easily obtainable.