Saturday, April 5, 2008

What will people think?

Is somebody else's opinion worth much to you?
Now here is a well-known energy-consumer. You can consider getting burnout as having spent (too) much energy without getting anything back. Having yourself steered in all your actions by whatever you suppose others are thinking about you (don't be surprised, it all happens), now that consumes energy. My wife for example will always give the room a quick vacuum-job when we're expecting visitors, always out on making a good impression, even with the biggest barbarians. Now, this of course doesn't matter much, but when on the job you always act after (unproven) impressions of what you think your chief or colleagues think of your performance, than maybe the danger is there for you doing way too much. So think twice: is your energy then well spent or not?

Stand up for yourself!
It is still amazing to see how often people let themselves be guided by unproven assumptions and, even stranger, how they never ever come down to checking the reality of it. A proper self-investigation can lead to asking the right questions to yourself and your environment. Cognitive therapy is the instrument that can provoke getting these kind of questions on the table and getting them answered as well. No wonder that in almost every suggested treatment of burnout this is the leading technique.